Memorial 12-2012

Maybe this blog should be about the loss of my children's father, but, I'd like to think it's more about the character and awesomeness of my children.  On December 4th, 2012 their father passed away.  What they had to endure prior to his passing is not what I would wish on anyone.  They were faced with many decisions as there was no living will.  Their father had also never really communicated with them regarding what his wishes were should something happen to him.  I'm not saying this to say anything negative about their father, but to let others know how important it is to have their affairs in place or at least made known to their loved ones. 

The kids did an awesome job in planning the memorial in his hometown of Monmouth, IL.  They gave great tributes.  Even Adyson, our 9 year old granddaughter gave an awesome memory of her Papa.  They put a video together with photos of his life, Ben played guitar, Kristy and Ben sang, the grandbabies danced, and all 3 (Kristy, Ben, and Robyn) each spoke about their dad.  It wasn't your typical funeral, but a memorial honoring his life.  There was no funeral home, no church, and no casket.  They had their father cremated.

Ady's Memory

Hi, my name is Adyson. And Rob is my Papa.  So I wrote this to say all the fun things we did together.  Like when he let me watch movies and he made me dinner.  And he spoiled me a lot and those are some reasons I love about him.  And he made me feel happy because he did nice things to me.  Like when he took me to Perkins and made me laugh by telling fun stuff to me.  And I hope he has a good time in heaven.

Kirk and I drove from TX to IL to be with the kids.  I hated that they had to go through all this.  It kills a mother inside to see her children so sad.  I did whatever it was that they needed me to do while they kept busy with arrangements.  I hope they know how proud I was/am of them.  

I'd like to mention my daughter-in-law Nicki.  She was with my son and daughters the whole time.  I know she knows how much I love her and how much it meant to me that she was there.   My sister, Elena was awesome in preparing a meal for over 50 people in under 4 hours.  I don't think I tell her enough how much she means to me.  Kirk was GREAT through this whole thing. 

I think the best part of this....if there can be something good, is the time our family and friends were able to spend together.   I want my kids to know how sorry I am for the loss of their father, and that I am always there for them.